CA Sisterhood Sessions (00:22)
back to Challenge Accepted Sisterhood Sessions. I am your host, Samone and I am so excited you decided to join us today.

OK, sisters, so I have a question. When did we, women, stop seeing each other in a positive light?

did it happen? When did we start despising one another and looking down on one another?

What happened to us celebrating one another, seeing each other out in public, and being able to positively uplift each other? What happened?

Because something's off. What made me ask this question is because I was in the store the other day,

and I came across a Woman We passed each other in an aisle and as we were walking past each other

She gave me the dirtiest look you could ever give another sister. I would almost say the dirtiest look you could ever give a human being. And it was so out of sorts that it caused me to turn around to see if it was somebody else in the same aisle.

That's how terrible the look was. The look was so egregious. that it made me stop what I was doing. It stopped me in my thought process of minding my own business

And it was from another sister And it caused me to begin to think about

What happened to the days? where women were just so excited to be in the spaces of other women

when I say I was floored, by the way, this, and I mean, melanated sister,

looked at me like we were on two different planets She looked at me like we didn't even belong in the same space. Y'all, I am so pressed by.

the experience because I have never or maybe I hadn't been paying attention until the other day. But I was so taken back by the experience that. I had to come and share the experience with you all and get your thoughts, because. Why? Why? No, seriously, I'm really.

asking a serious question and I need some help. I really need some help because I had no words. I had no words about why this particular experience passing another sister would create so much contention or so much hate or so much unsettledness that...

It calls you to give me the death stare. the little stink face that people do when they are disgusted by something and trying to process why they even have to deal with an is essentially what the experience was like.

and I cannot wrap my mind around what I could have done, what my energy said to her in the moment, what my...

existence did to her. really don't understand

But I never anticipated that.

The spaces that we are in in our personal journeys would call somebody to read you in a store and they just immediately just do not like you.

I thought I was losing my mind. And I said to myself, dang, what I do to her? I literally.

Recapped, me pulling into the parking lot. I recapped me walking into the store. I don't recall crossing her when I walked into the store. ⁓ Nobody else was there when I got my cart It was just me. Like, I literally.

went back to how I got to the store. Did I cross you? Did I cut you off? Did I do something?

Like, sis, it's enough space in this world for us all to be amazing. There is, I promise you. Sis, there's enough positive good energy in the world for us all to have a big bite, a big old.

healthy helping of happiness and love and generosity and peace and uplift and maturity There's so much of it in the world there's a portion for you whenever you ready for it. I am just so taken that.

when you look at another sister that you don't see yourself, or maybe you do, maybe you do see yourself and maybe you weren't happy with what you saw.

I am at a loss of what would cause us to size up another sister and judge that sister without a word.

If I have sized you up in a store, if I have unintentionally or intentionally looked at you and gave you the...

look of displeasure, the look of disdain, the look of disgust, the look of whatever words you want to use to describe it. If I have ever done that to you, I apologize. I sincerely apologize because it was the most awkward, uncomfortable feeling that I have had in a very long time.

There's so much space for us to exist and celebrate each other that it doesn't require us to be nasty to one another. The world and society already does that enough. We already have every culture around the world telling us how we should be.

and how we should exist and how we should love on ourselves and see ourselves through the lenses that they have. We already have that everywhere. So amongst ourselves, why do we feel it necessary to pull each other down

Are we looking at other sisters and saying, like, who do you think she is? Or are we looking at others and seeing our own flaws

Are we measuring our own lives to a superficial existence of another woman? Do we just see the outer surface of each other and we are saying, mm, you could have did better. Mm, you could have came out of the house and tried a little harder. life has its own pressures and we are all working to become better, like chill. Like sis, chill. Like gee whiz, chill.

Let up a little bit. Let up.

If you cross the path of another woman and you can't find it in yourself to give a smile regardless of what type of day that you're having, stay in the house. That's it. Just stay in the house. Why? Because.

You could take that negative energy and you could floor somebody into non-existence because you want to be nasty. And it doesn't require all of that. Sis, come here. Let me love on you. Let me hug you. cannot be that hard or that tough. Or you cannot be that unhappy with where you are in life you

to project on other people your is already life. people are dealing with it the best way that they know how.

But It was very clear and apparent to me that whatever she saw in me or whatever she didn't see in herself, it created something was...

reactive to my very existence. And we could even take it into a more deeper spiritual My spirit didn't resonate with her spirit, and she was having a spiritual reaction. Uh-uh. Nope. I don't got time.

Life is made to be enjoyed, it's made to be experienced, it is made to be valued, and people are made to be seen and valued and appreciated and

It was also sad because there could have been a great exchange of energy, A great acknowledgement of the beauty.

being melanated and existing in the same space and being the light There could have been a very beautiful exchange. And I want you to consider this

we weren't created to display that type of energy, especially towards each other. That's not what the sisterhood is about, That's not how we build each other. That's not how we build community with one another. That's not how we empower even our young women to find joy and peace and comfort in...

their existence and the beauty of their existence if every time they come across someone that looks like them, that there is this awkward exchange, it's a negative exchange, it's a nasty exchange, it is a belittling exchange, it is the tearing down, it is the overly critical analysis of a person.

Relax, because, y'all, we need each other. We need each other. And I may not need you to call me every day, I may not need you to exchange phone numbers and do lunch and all of those things, but we need each other.

We need to make sure that we OK, sis, you all right? Sis, you OK? You good? Check on a sister. Great day. No. Y'all not kidding. Like, really, really consider.

that we need each other and I need you to be your best self. I need you to show up as your best self. I need you to be considerate, of how we're walking out the house and what images that we are portraying to not just ourselves but to the younger generation, to our elders, what are we saying to each other that we don't care?

that we're not tapped in, that we are not considerate of each other, that we are disconnected in such a way that we really don't have an ounce of compassion to give to one another? Is that what we're really saying to society? Because if we are, we are in trouble.

I don't believe that we as a society and we as women cannot tap into that softer side of

have to be that we are just so nonchalant and so not tapped in with each other and ourselves that we just do whatever we want because we don't care. Surely, surely we still have an ounce of care. Surely we still have an ounce of care for one another, surely. And if we don't,

⁓ my goodness, if we're the most compassionate people in the world, and if we stop caring about one another, if we stop caring about the sisterhood, if we stop caring about our men, if we stop caring about our children, if we stop caring about the outcomes, if we stop caring about community, my goodness. Trouble.

really want to hear from you all, because I feel like I'm not the only one that has had this experience. I feel like the experience has been more frequent in our society than we have been

giving awareness to. And if this is the case, then I want us to be honest about what we have been doing to one another and how it has been impacting us.

I may be misreading the situation, but we may be spiraling a little bit. And sometimes we have to just reel ourselves back a little bit and reconnect with what's important. And I think what is that as sisters, there is not. I don't believe.

that there is ever anything that happens that is so egregious

for us just to write you off 100 % because if we're spiritual about the thing right and if God is forgiving and if God is loving and if God created us in his image and he says that we are going to

live life in and show others God and Christ through us. If that is what we truly believe, then there is no way you walk into a space with your nose tooted up and there is no way you tear somebody down and pat yourself on the back when you walk out of the room. There is no way that you destroy somebody online or you destroy their image

There's no way. There's no way we are incapable of having healthy conversations to build up our sisterhood, to restore our sisterhood, to restore the image of ourselves.

But I wanna hear your thoughts.

because it really troubled my spirit. It troubled me in such a way that I had to get on here and ask you your thoughts because surely, truly, truly, truly, truly, this cannot be the way that we operate as a sisterhood when we see each other out in public. It can't be the way. I refuse to believe that that is the way. And I cannot be the only person. So sisters, share your thoughts.

and we will do a part two on this so I can dive into some of your comments.